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When You're not Hearing
Claps and Cheers
So, there you are, engaged in something so compelling that you’re up with the rooster and still going strong at the stroke of midnight. Yet nobody seems particularly interested.
Maybe you’re okay with that, too. Perhaps you’re one who needs very little outside support or approval with regard to your “stuff.” That can be a good thing. After all, your goals and dreams really need no one’s approval but your own. Plus, others may withhold the strokes, anyway. In a busy and sometimes self-absorbed world, cheers and whistles sometimes seem about as rare as the dodo bird. But if you do miss that kind of enthusiasm, try not to take the lack of it personally. Because it will rarely be about you (in my humble opinion). For example, close associates who seem uninterested in your enterprise may have preoccupations of their own. Worried, unhappy, or overwhelmed people can’t always leap onto the bandwagon of another, however much they might care. They may need that energy just to soldier on themselves. The Bregrudgers
Others, though, may feel uncomfortable if you move away from your customary role(s), or they think you’re pulling ahead of them in some way. You could encounter that attitude with competitive people, or those with low self-esteem, a scarcity orientation, a jealousy habit, etc. If such folk form even a small part of your circle, you already know who they are. So, don’t be a dummy. Do not even Consider revealing goals and dreams, bold or otherwise, to them. Because, if you do, you will likely encounter silence, boredom, discouraging remarks, etcetera—none of those benefiting your state of being.
Like, do you really want to listen while people count on their fingers the pitfalls they see before you? Or speak at length about people they know who’ve already done whatever you’re engaged in—maybe more than once (and, of course, far better than you ever could). I don’t think so. Nor let us forget those who note that you should've done this waaay sooner. (“Well, it’s about time!”) Why do people choose to act that way, you wonder? Beats me, but sometimes those behaviors are just the breaks. And they generally say rather more about the speaker than about your enterprise. So, here’s a thought: besides not sharing information with such folk, you might also consider limiting your contact. Raise your sights, in other words, relative to the people you hang out with. Since your Earth time is finite, after all, why “deposit” where there’s so little return? A Different Way
Bottom line? Try to soft-pedal your expectations of support because, aside from the champs we’ve just discussed, some people may have big worries. Or maybe they’re working on big dreams of their own…or cannot manage glad cries for any number of other reasons having little or nothing to do with you. If a time comes, however, when these same folks could use some encouragement or applause, perhaps you’ll behave more generously with them than they could manage with you. And each time you do that, you’ll create another positive ripple. Just “do one thing” to make this a nicer world—because even small steps can lead to big results if enough people are taking them.  [Back to Just Do One Thing]
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